You’ll be so exhausted from her meltdowns, manipulation, and the constant repairs (literal and figurative) from her poor life choices that you won’t have the time or energy for sex. Then she’ll cheat on you with your gross scumbag neighbor who was old enough to be her father because she jumped to the conclusion that you did’t want her anymore and she wanted revenge.
She’ll then proceed to run off with one your friends. But not before explaining how it’s probably just temporary and the relationship will be stronger than ever when she comes back. So stay single. Oh, can you keep her cat for now? He doesn’t have room in his parent’s apartment that she’s moving into the day after fucking him for the first time.
My early 20s were trash. She ended up completing suicide a week before my wedding in 2012. Myself, I was so fucked up by that relationship I now live with chronic anhedonia and alexithymia. It literally broke my brain.
You still seem deeply traumatized. The way you speak about your experience is something that reminds me of myself and other people’s communication with unprocessed traumatic experiences.
You experience is valid, but the way you generalize and demonize BPD/mentally ill women is not. You can’t expect to get any pity or validation by randomly trauma dumping in a shitposting community. Getting angry and generalizing is often the first step towards healing, but… This is not the place to do it.
You’re accusing me of generalizing/demonizing women with BPD in a thread questioning if sex with mentally ill people is “worth it”. Get off your high horse and spare me your armchair psychoanalysis.
No I just don’t want to tell you straight up to just shut the fuck up. And I’m not accusing you, you obviously fucking did. You phrased it as if your experience is representative of all experiences, without any nuance, empathy, and expressed a deep grudge you still seem to hold. Nobody needs armchair psychoanalysis to tell you that that’s obviously something you still need to work on and not something to share as a reply to someone asking why BPD people bang better.
There’s plenty of ways to tell people “a relationship with a mentally ill person is a commitment and might backfire; be careful” - “she will fuck your neighbor and I almost killed myself” is arguably one of the shittier ones.
Framing something as “In my experience” precludes me attaching any objective truth to what I’m about to say let alone any broad-based assessment of a group of people. Would you have preferred “In my opinion”, you pedantic clown?
I recommend you stop trying to diagnose people on the Internet like a Redditor who just finished a required 101 course.
Don’t tone police me, asshole. I’m not compromising my sincerity nor am I going to blunt my language just so strangers on the Internet feel better about themselves. Don’t like it? Keep fucking scrolling.
From personsl experience: it’s not worth it.
Swap pronouns were applicable.
You’ll be so exhausted from her meltdowns, manipulation, and the constant repairs (literal and figurative) from her poor life choices that you won’t have the time or energy for sex. Then she’ll cheat on you with your gross scumbag neighbor who was old enough to be her father because she jumped to the conclusion that you did’t want her anymore and she wanted revenge.
She’ll then proceed to run off with one your friends. But not before explaining how it’s probably just temporary and the relationship will be stronger than ever when she comes back. So stay single. Oh, can you keep her cat for now? He doesn’t have room in his parent’s apartment that she’s moving into the day after fucking him for the first time.
My early 20s were trash. She ended up completing suicide a week before my wedding in 2012. Myself, I was so fucked up by that relationship I now live with chronic anhedonia and alexithymia. It literally broke my brain.
skill issue
This situation lead to me attempting suicide. I failed. Is that also a skill issue?
You still seem deeply traumatized. The way you speak about your experience is something that reminds me of myself and other people’s communication with unprocessed traumatic experiences.
You experience is valid, but the way you generalize and demonize BPD/mentally ill women is not. You can’t expect to get any pity or validation by randomly trauma dumping in a shitposting community. Getting angry and generalizing is often the first step towards healing, but… This is not the place to do it.
You’re accusing me of generalizing/demonizing women with BPD in a thread questioning if sex with mentally ill people is “worth it”. Get off your high horse and spare me your armchair psychoanalysis.
No I just don’t want to tell you straight up to just shut the fuck up. And I’m not accusing you, you obviously fucking did. You phrased it as if your experience is representative of all experiences, without any nuance, empathy, and expressed a deep grudge you still seem to hold. Nobody needs armchair psychoanalysis to tell you that that’s obviously something you still need to work on and not something to share as a reply to someone asking why BPD people bang better.
There’s plenty of ways to tell people “a relationship with a mentally ill person is a commitment and might backfire; be careful” - “she will fuck your neighbor and I almost killed myself” is arguably one of the shittier ones.
Framing something as “In my experience” precludes me attaching any objective truth to what I’m about to say let alone any broad-based assessment of a group of people. Would you have preferred “In my opinion”, you pedantic clown?
I recommend you stop trying to diagnose people on the Internet like a Redditor who just finished a required 101 course.
Don’t tone police me, asshole. I’m not compromising my sincerity nor am I going to blunt my language just so strangers on the Internet feel better about themselves. Don’t like it? Keep fucking scrolling.