You still seem deeply traumatized. The way you speak about your experience is something that reminds me of myself and other people’s communication with unprocessed traumatic experiences.
You experience is valid, but the way you generalize and demonize BPD/mentally ill women is not. You can’t expect to get any pity or validation by randomly trauma dumping in a shitposting community. Getting angry and generalizing is often the first step towards healing, but… This is not the place to do it.
So like, stigmatization even from professionals? Yeah I can see that. It’s absolutely not what I experienced so far, quite the opposite; but I haven’t been to each and every psych ward in my country haha.
Maybe I just didn’t like your phrasing? Because it’s different if you straight up say: The diagnosis and treatment in psychiatry is flawed and still has a long way to go; if you personally suffer from BPD and don’t get the treatment you know you need, get diagnosed with ASD and PTSD to get proper treatment; directly addressing the problems of an established diagnosis and treatment system which is only very sluggishly changing.
edit: if you’re interested in this kind of stuff, search for “OPD-3”, it tries to address the rigidity problem the ICD-10 and DSM-5 have
you won’t have the time or energy for sex
skill issue
I’m diagnosed with BPD and met (quite some) other people who were diagnosed over the years. I think your theory is bullshit – but not in a rude way, it just doesn’t fit what I know about BPD and the women diagnosed with BPD I got to know.
Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience
Modern treatment methods often follow a bio-psychological or bio-psycho-social model. This is a oversimplification, but BPD is usually a biological/genetic predisposition to be more emotional + bad experiences in your childhood, leading to strong negative emotions and the lack of mechanisms to regulate those emotions, which cumulates in impulsivity, unhealthy coping mechanisms etc later on.
There’s overlap with the vague concept of hypersensitivity and ADHD; there’s differential diagnosis too, which is “hey, this can be similar to that, let’s diagnose properly before we do anything”; and there’s comorbidity.
I agree that trauma plays a big role, and I would go so far as to claim every BPD person is traumatized in a way that justifies therapy, but PTSD is a specific diagnosis, just like autism is.
No I just don’t want to tell you straight up to just shut the fuck up. And I’m not accusing you, you obviously fucking did. You phrased it as if your experience is representative of all experiences, without any nuance, empathy, and expressed a deep grudge you still seem to hold. Nobody needs armchair psychoanalysis to tell you that that’s obviously something you still need to work on and not something to share as a reply to someone asking why BPD people bang better.
There’s plenty of ways to tell people “a relationship with a mentally ill person is a commitment and might backfire; be careful” - “she will fuck your neighbor and I almost killed myself” is arguably one of the shittier ones.