• Fedizen@lemmy.world
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        9 days ago

        If you write messages to other men about how unreasonable women’s dating expectations are and its mostly relating to common male insecurities, there’s a pretty good chance you’re incel posting or parodying an incel.

        Height, abs, balding are all common cishet male insecurities, and largely have nothing to do with finding a girlfriend.

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          9 days ago

          Height is definitely a factor, just go on Tinder lol, used to be that a lot of girls bios would say if you’re under 180, don’t even try, now they can just use the filter. Not sure about the other 2.

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            8 days ago

            Dating apps tend to fill up with undatable people over time. If you see a lot of girls that like theme park rides come with a “you must be at least this tall” sign thats maybe an omen and portent not to engage.

            If you do want to date somebody like that you can also just lie. Its not like most girls will pull out a tape measure and check.

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              8 days ago

              I just swiped left on those. But it doesn’t change the fact that people have standards and one of the standards women have for men is height. It’s not entirely one way though, men are often superficial on looks too.

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                8 days ago

                Those aren’t “standards” though, those are novelties. I’ve only met one person IRL that had the kind of extreme trait preferences like you’re talking about and she absolutely is not somebody who gets dates.

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              8 days ago

              Dating apps tend to fill up with undatable people over time

              This is good wisdom. I hadn’t thought about it before, but most of my relationships that worked out were from people who had just recently installed the app.

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            8 days ago

            used to be that a lot of girls bios would say if you’re under 180, don’t even try,

            you should be happy they raise their red flag so clearly so you can avoid them…

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              8 days ago

              Oh definitely, they go left real quick along with all the ones that say their man should be able to afford a lot of upkeep lol

              Doesn’t change the fact that men are often judged by height as far as first impressions are concerned. And first impressions are hard to change.

              There’s even a correlation between male height and income because tall men seem (or are) more confident so they get promoted to leadership roles more easily. Apparently the same might be true for women too, but a lot of the studies focus on men.

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                8 days ago

                well they rejected you beforehand on behalf of really insignificant attribute, so you are not the picky one and you don’t really have a choice, but are you really interested in such superficial bimbo?